Oh my, our house is the house of the sick !!
Jayne has caught a nasty bug, hopefully it is only for a day or two !!
Darcy was bad nappy rash and was having one of her " I want some attention mum" days, so this added to the pain !
Darcy had a good night though apart from waking at 5am, shouting for her favourite doll !!
after lifting her on to our bed with her doll, she settled down, i put her back in her cot, and she opened her eyes, and stared at me. so much for trying to creep out to work !
hopefully she will have a good night tonight ..
Friday 11 July 2008
Thursday 10 July 2008
A Dilema
When you are a parent, how much nudging or persuading is acceptable?? This is the question, as a proud Sheffield Wednesday fan, i noticed , and been counting down the days till the new shirt is released (july 18th if Lotto can deliver ),
Last season I bought Darcypops her first Wednesday shirt, which ok she did not have much say in the matter, but now when i wear mine, she points and says owl !! "that's my girl "
But do i try to get her to follow the team of MY choice, or incourage her to follow her own, if football at all !! Nick Hornby wrote in Fever Pitch " when you choose your team, choose carefully, because you choose for life " so many kids are startled by the bright lights and lured into following the big 4/5 teams, it is time to show some originality, and individuality !!
So do I buy her the shirt ???
Then of course there is the question of, how old does your child have to be, to take them to their first match ????
Last season I bought Darcypops her first Wednesday shirt, which ok she did not have much say in the matter, but now when i wear mine, she points and says owl !! "that's my girl "
But do i try to get her to follow the team of MY choice, or incourage her to follow her own, if football at all !! Nick Hornby wrote in Fever Pitch " when you choose your team, choose carefully, because you choose for life " so many kids are startled by the bright lights and lured into following the big 4/5 teams, it is time to show some originality, and individuality !!
So do I buy her the shirt ???
Then of course there is the question of, how old does your child have to be, to take them to their first match ????
Wednesday 9 July 2008
The journey thus far...
I started this page ages back, and the realisation of it from conception, to actually blogging has been tough, i used to blog over on a another social site, and i could blog everyday easily sometimes twice a day, now the words dry up a little, but slowly there is more focus growing and purpose, as I go through the journey that is fatherhood, and also life,
Fatherhood is a strange career, job, pasttime, i am not sure of the word for it, You just do it !! before it you can not imagine a life doing it, and when you are a father, you can not remember a life without it ! it just takes over, the trick is, ( which i am learning ) to not think about it too much, . if you analyse it, then you will never get anything done, .. go with the fatherhood flow. I am not saying everything has been , or will be , sweetness and light, but if you stopped to consider it, then you would not start again !!.
I need to push my worries behind me more, and concentrate more on the Darcy times. Enjoying the little things, are a lot more important, i work so miss out on so much more than if I stayed at home !! some say it is easier working, i am not being funny , but work is easy, compared to being a father, BUT the things you miss are staggering, compared to getting a quote, or sale done !!
Priorities in life are very important, this is something i have to get in order more,
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I draw a line in the sand,
Fatherhood is a strange career, job, pasttime, i am not sure of the word for it, You just do it !! before it you can not imagine a life doing it, and when you are a father, you can not remember a life without it ! it just takes over, the trick is, ( which i am learning ) to not think about it too much, . if you analyse it, then you will never get anything done, .. go with the fatherhood flow. I am not saying everything has been , or will be , sweetness and light, but if you stopped to consider it, then you would not start again !!.
I need to push my worries behind me more, and concentrate more on the Darcy times. Enjoying the little things, are a lot more important, i work so miss out on so much more than if I stayed at home !! some say it is easier working, i am not being funny , but work is easy, compared to being a father, BUT the things you miss are staggering, compared to getting a quote, or sale done !!
Priorities in life are very important, this is something i have to get in order more,
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I draw a line in the sand,
2am daisy !
I love Darcy....
Anyone who knows me, or reads this.....
will know that.
BUT when your daughter wakes in the morning shouting for her favourite doll at 2 am, it can be tested, then as soon as you have trudged downstairs, fetched, said doll, she throws it to one side, turns over, and goes back to sleep !! Ohh boy !!
time for the matchsticks today !!
Anyone who knows me, or reads this.....
will know that.
BUT when your daughter wakes in the morning shouting for her favourite doll at 2 am, it can be tested, then as soon as you have trudged downstairs, fetched, said doll, she throws it to one side, turns over, and goes back to sleep !! Ohh boy !!
time for the matchsticks today !!
Monday 7 July 2008
It is a generation thing !
My gran is horrified, that my sister has moved in with her boyfriend, she was not best pleased when my other sister bought a house with her then, boyfriend !! and is only coming around to the idea now they are getting married this Autumn..3 yrs on !
With my parents the things I did, when I was younger, I didn't get away with...... my older sister got away, with a little bit more, and my younger sister, gets away with even more,
Yes attitudes are changing with time, but the older generation takes change with difficulty, sometimes you may not like something, but if you do not accept it, then you lose it, walking on egg shells for a few months may be better than cutting all ties ... growing older can be hard sometimes !
With my parents the things I did, when I was younger, I didn't get away with...... my older sister got away, with a little bit more, and my younger sister, gets away with even more,
Yes attitudes are changing with time, but the older generation takes change with difficulty, sometimes you may not like something, but if you do not accept it, then you lose it, walking on egg shells for a few months may be better than cutting all ties ... growing older can be hard sometimes !
Peeling back the layers
Sometimes it is hard to get to what really matters, we get bogged down in life's crap. and do not appreciate the simple things that much !
i get caught up too easily in the daily stress of life, and do not take the time to think about 1) how lucky I am 2) and also that life sometimes life isn't that bad, yes we all strive for something better, but sometimes what we have is pretty damn good ! we just have to open our eyes to see it.
My parents came down this weekend, I do not get to see them very often, and it was a great weekend, Darcy played with them all weekend and by the end of it she was even saying "pops" to my dad !! Plus he loved the fact that he could feed her, and she would also sit and listen whilst he read her books !!
i have had too much stress lately, over work, Darcy , my own health, money, etc etc etc the list grows, my mother told me this weekend, that her stress suddenly vanished when she turned 40, and that her father was the same ( Great only another 7 yrs to go then !!!)
Getting rid of the stress is the tricky bit ! how I will do this i am still learning, but it is something that has to be done, it is like, opening the blinds, or throwing off the covers, realising that things are not that bad, focus on the good, and get on with it !!
It is on going !
i get caught up too easily in the daily stress of life, and do not take the time to think about 1) how lucky I am 2) and also that life sometimes life isn't that bad, yes we all strive for something better, but sometimes what we have is pretty damn good ! we just have to open our eyes to see it.
My parents came down this weekend, I do not get to see them very often, and it was a great weekend, Darcy played with them all weekend and by the end of it she was even saying "pops" to my dad !! Plus he loved the fact that he could feed her, and she would also sit and listen whilst he read her books !!
i have had too much stress lately, over work, Darcy , my own health, money, etc etc etc the list grows, my mother told me this weekend, that her stress suddenly vanished when she turned 40, and that her father was the same ( Great only another 7 yrs to go then !!!)
Getting rid of the stress is the tricky bit ! how I will do this i am still learning, but it is something that has to be done, it is like, opening the blinds, or throwing off the covers, realising that things are not that bad, focus on the good, and get on with it !!
It is on going !
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