When you are a parent, how much nudging or persuading is acceptable?? This is the question, as a proud Sheffield Wednesday fan, i noticed , and been counting down the days till the new shirt is released (july 18th if Lotto can deliver ),
Last season I bought Darcypops her first Wednesday shirt, which ok she did not have much say in the matter, but now when i wear mine, she points and says owl !! "that's my girl "
But do i try to get her to follow the team of MY choice, or incourage her to follow her own, if football at all !! Nick Hornby wrote in Fever Pitch " when you choose your team, choose carefully, because you choose for life " so many kids are startled by the bright lights and lured into following the big 4/5 teams, it is time to show some originality, and individuality !!
So do I buy her the shirt ???
Then of course there is the question of, how old does your child have to be, to take them to their first match ????
Thursday, 10 July 2008
Wednesday, 9 July 2008
The journey thus far...
I started this page ages back, and the realisation of it from conception, to actually blogging has been tough, i used to blog over on a another social site, and i could blog everyday easily sometimes twice a day, now the words dry up a little, but slowly there is more focus growing and purpose, as I go through the journey that is fatherhood, and also life,
Fatherhood is a strange career, job, pasttime, i am not sure of the word for it, You just do it !! before it you can not imagine a life doing it, and when you are a father, you can not remember a life without it ! it just takes over, the trick is, ( which i am learning ) to not think about it too much, . if you analyse it, then you will never get anything done, .. go with the fatherhood flow. I am not saying everything has been , or will be , sweetness and light, but if you stopped to consider it, then you would not start again !!.
I need to push my worries behind me more, and concentrate more on the Darcy times. Enjoying the little things, are a lot more important, i work so miss out on so much more than if I stayed at home !! some say it is easier working, i am not being funny , but work is easy, compared to being a father, BUT the things you miss are staggering, compared to getting a quote, or sale done !!
Priorities in life are very important, this is something i have to get in order more,
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I draw a line in the sand,
Fatherhood is a strange career, job, pasttime, i am not sure of the word for it, You just do it !! before it you can not imagine a life doing it, and when you are a father, you can not remember a life without it ! it just takes over, the trick is, ( which i am learning ) to not think about it too much, . if you analyse it, then you will never get anything done, .. go with the fatherhood flow. I am not saying everything has been , or will be , sweetness and light, but if you stopped to consider it, then you would not start again !!.
I need to push my worries behind me more, and concentrate more on the Darcy times. Enjoying the little things, are a lot more important, i work so miss out on so much more than if I stayed at home !! some say it is easier working, i am not being funny , but work is easy, compared to being a father, BUT the things you miss are staggering, compared to getting a quote, or sale done !!
Priorities in life are very important, this is something i have to get in order more,
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I draw a line in the sand,
2am daisy !
I love Darcy....
Anyone who knows me, or reads this.....
will know that.
BUT when your daughter wakes in the morning shouting for her favourite doll at 2 am, it can be tested, then as soon as you have trudged downstairs, fetched, said doll, she throws it to one side, turns over, and goes back to sleep !! Ohh boy !!
time for the matchsticks today !!
Anyone who knows me, or reads this.....
will know that.
BUT when your daughter wakes in the morning shouting for her favourite doll at 2 am, it can be tested, then as soon as you have trudged downstairs, fetched, said doll, she throws it to one side, turns over, and goes back to sleep !! Ohh boy !!
time for the matchsticks today !!
Monday, 7 July 2008
It is a generation thing !
My gran is horrified, that my sister has moved in with her boyfriend, she was not best pleased when my other sister bought a house with her then, boyfriend !! and is only coming around to the idea now they are getting married this Autumn..3 yrs on !
With my parents the things I did, when I was younger, I didn't get away with...... my older sister got away, with a little bit more, and my younger sister, gets away with even more,
Yes attitudes are changing with time, but the older generation takes change with difficulty, sometimes you may not like something, but if you do not accept it, then you lose it, walking on egg shells for a few months may be better than cutting all ties ... growing older can be hard sometimes !
With my parents the things I did, when I was younger, I didn't get away with...... my older sister got away, with a little bit more, and my younger sister, gets away with even more,
Yes attitudes are changing with time, but the older generation takes change with difficulty, sometimes you may not like something, but if you do not accept it, then you lose it, walking on egg shells for a few months may be better than cutting all ties ... growing older can be hard sometimes !
Peeling back the layers
Sometimes it is hard to get to what really matters, we get bogged down in life's crap. and do not appreciate the simple things that much !
i get caught up too easily in the daily stress of life, and do not take the time to think about 1) how lucky I am 2) and also that life sometimes life isn't that bad, yes we all strive for something better, but sometimes what we have is pretty damn good ! we just have to open our eyes to see it.
My parents came down this weekend, I do not get to see them very often, and it was a great weekend, Darcy played with them all weekend and by the end of it she was even saying "pops" to my dad !! Plus he loved the fact that he could feed her, and she would also sit and listen whilst he read her books !!
i have had too much stress lately, over work, Darcy , my own health, money, etc etc etc the list grows, my mother told me this weekend, that her stress suddenly vanished when she turned 40, and that her father was the same ( Great only another 7 yrs to go then !!!)
Getting rid of the stress is the tricky bit ! how I will do this i am still learning, but it is something that has to be done, it is like, opening the blinds, or throwing off the covers, realising that things are not that bad, focus on the good, and get on with it !!
It is on going !
i get caught up too easily in the daily stress of life, and do not take the time to think about 1) how lucky I am 2) and also that life sometimes life isn't that bad, yes we all strive for something better, but sometimes what we have is pretty damn good ! we just have to open our eyes to see it.
My parents came down this weekend, I do not get to see them very often, and it was a great weekend, Darcy played with them all weekend and by the end of it she was even saying "pops" to my dad !! Plus he loved the fact that he could feed her, and she would also sit and listen whilst he read her books !!
i have had too much stress lately, over work, Darcy , my own health, money, etc etc etc the list grows, my mother told me this weekend, that her stress suddenly vanished when she turned 40, and that her father was the same ( Great only another 7 yrs to go then !!!)
Getting rid of the stress is the tricky bit ! how I will do this i am still learning, but it is something that has to be done, it is like, opening the blinds, or throwing off the covers, realising that things are not that bad, focus on the good, and get on with it !!
It is on going !
Friday, 4 July 2008
Donkey
What do the donkeys on Blackpool beach have for dinner ???
An Hour... The same as they do in Skegness !!
Ohh yes the humour!!
But this is good for us....
Darcy shrieks with laughter because she thinks it is hilarious to offer somebody a toy, or book, then to pull it away at the last minute !!
Mind you , she thinks it funny to wake up at 4.30am when Jayne got to bed at 1am after cleaning the house !! yep funny eh !??
The gas board came yesterday to maintain our supply, and said rather than re lay the pipe, they would they would use a flexi pipe, from our neighbour to our house !! "a flexi pipe " !! WTF is that , i have visions of a pipe off of a tumble dryer, going over the wall !! better be better than that !!
oh boy, but at least it is the weekend. !! almost !
An Hour... The same as they do in Skegness !!
Ohh yes the humour!!
But this is good for us....
Darcy shrieks with laughter because she thinks it is hilarious to offer somebody a toy, or book, then to pull it away at the last minute !!
Mind you , she thinks it funny to wake up at 4.30am when Jayne got to bed at 1am after cleaning the house !! yep funny eh !??
The gas board came yesterday to maintain our supply, and said rather than re lay the pipe, they would they would use a flexi pipe, from our neighbour to our house !! "a flexi pipe " !! WTF is that , i have visions of a pipe off of a tumble dryer, going over the wall !! better be better than that !!
oh boy, but at least it is the weekend. !! almost !
Wednesday, 2 July 2008
Time to buy that child gate !
Darcy is hyper !
Yesterday she was in a great mood, wanting to play ALL day !! which is great when she is like this ! wanting to hide, then wanting to read books, any books, all the books, together !! especially Fish books !! anything with fish is good !!
But...
She is fast on the floor, i mean her shuffle is quick !! she can be in the kitchen , or hall and looking at the stairs before you can say boo !!, and she is strong too..!!
So the time has come for the child proof gates, i say gates 'cos i bought another one today, sorry Darcy , i hate to curb your crawling but it is for your own good !!
Yesterday she was in a great mood, wanting to play ALL day !! which is great when she is like this ! wanting to hide, then wanting to read books, any books, all the books, together !! especially Fish books !! anything with fish is good !!
But...
She is fast on the floor, i mean her shuffle is quick !! she can be in the kitchen , or hall and looking at the stairs before you can say boo !!, and she is strong too..!!
So the time has come for the child proof gates, i say gates 'cos i bought another one today, sorry Darcy , i hate to curb your crawling but it is for your own good !!
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